There are reasons for sharing our thoughts with others as much as there are reasons for keeping the same thoughts within. Some share for the sake of sharing. But some share because they want the other person to know what he/she is going through.
Before we share our situations (not necessarily our problems) with someone what are the thoughts that cross the mind?
1. Will the other person understand the gravity of the situation.
2. Even if they do, will they be unaffected by my condition.
We share when our mind has negated the two points. But as it's highly unlikely that they may react as per our expectation, we are not satisfied even after sharing.
But in some instances, there could be a deeper reason. We had not shared with any objective in mind and thus were unable to handle the reaction that came. We shared because the other person was important. But he/she fails to infer this and rather questions the very goal of sharing the situation. We are either speechless or feel thunderstruck. "I had not thought of this reaction."
And believe me friends, there could be situations when we see it coming and yet go for it. I remember sharing my problems with same person time and again and then being tagged a 'sadist'!
When we don't always feel lighter after sharing and when we know the problem better than the other person, I don't understand why we share. Composed few lines some months back:
"Jispe guzari woh hi samjha, baaki ya toh has diye ya ro pade."
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There is a saying in bengali too,
"Ki jatona bishe bujhibe she kise/ Oshibishe dongsheni jare."
Translated these would mean,
"The pain of venom can never be understood by a person who has never been bitten by a scorpion."
"Jispe guzari woh hi samjha, baaki ya toh has diye ya ro pade."
loved it.. loved it from the bottom of my heart..
Complete empathy is just impossible. Only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches.
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